A Gunman, a Movie Theater and Senseless Violence
Senseless violence, suffering and pain… this time in a movie theater in the middle of the night. My heart breaks, there’s not much one can say.
Actually, I’m not sure there’s anything an unaffected* observer like myself could or should even attempt to say. (*affected in the sense that I’m heart-broken, but not directly affected by knowing anyone involved)
And I’m no expert about what one should say when someone’s loved one, friend or acquaintance is injured or dies, especially in a brutal shooting…
but here’s a few suggestions:
I’m so sorry.
I have no idea what you must be feeling.
I don’t know what to say, but I’ll be glad to listen.
What can I do to help?
But there are definitely a few things no one
should say about the loss of lives or the injured.
Everything happens for a reason.
I understand the loss you are feeling.
My brother/aunt/cousin/friend died or was injured, so I know what you are going through.
God will never give you more than you can handle.
They are in a better place now.
It’s part of God’s (life’s) plan.
Someday you will understand.
The universe knows what you/we/they need.
Some of you will think that you or certain situations are different and therefore it’s okay for you to say these things. I know I haven’t talked to the world, but I hear from a lot of people dealing with difficult situations and each one has heard some or all of these and hardly any have appreciated having these things said to them about a trauma, tragedy or death..
Any other suggestions of things to say or not to say?