Are You Unsure About Being Alone?

I first posted the clip below last year … saw it recently and wanted to share it again.

I love people. I get energy from people. I rarely say no to a party.

But I also like to be alone. I always have.

As a teen, I enjoyed shopping with girlfriends, but I also liked shopping alone. Then as a young mom with toddlers, playdates with other moms and kids were good, but I often took my kids to the park alone. (I know, that’s not technically alone, but since there was no adult conversation, it was kind of like being alone)

I like walking/running/biking/kayaking with friends, but I also love only hearing my breathing.

Being alone, alone can give me time to…

breathe deep
meditate
be still
hear myself think
reflect
process life

And being alone with strangers gives me time to…

notice others
imagine the stories behind the faces
strike up random conversations

If you are unsure about being alone … watch this:

So even though I love people. I get energy from people. I rarely say no to a party – I am more centered if I also plan some alone time.

Stop worrying if you don’t have a spouse/friend/etc to go with you … spend some time alone today and you might be surprised at what you discover about yourself and/or about others.

Do you enjoy being alone?

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  • Tara

    Great post. I have to agree with you. I love people and parties and hanging out with friends. I enjoy running with my girlfriend too. But I definitely enjoy my “alone time.”  When I was younger I used to feel like I needed to be with someone ALL the time. I guess having kids cured me of those feelings (don’t get me wrong, I love, love, love spending time with my girls too)! This is the first week I’ve been running without my running partner since November. I thought I might not be able to get back into the groove of running alone, but it’s been great. Setting my own pace has been nice. Plus, I’ve been able to have those conversations with our Father that have been a long time in coming. There’s a certain peace in having time alone. I think it’s good for the soul. :)